Christian growth and love
Becoming
mature adults
Part 3
The part of this scripture that we will now define is, I am writing to you fathers
because you have come to recognize and have come to understand Him who
has existed from the beginning.. Since I do not consider myself to have arrived
because I am still a work in progress, I will state as Paul the Apostle did in Phil 3:4 when he said, “I
press on toward the goal to win the supreme and heavenly prize of which God in Christ is calling us towards.”
The prize that Paul is talking about which I read about in the bible forty years ago has changed
in its meaning and concepts within myself over these many years.
At one time, I had thoughts of grandeur, that being of having a huge
ministry. Then I was going to win my family, then my neighborhood, then my city, and then the world. If you have ever seen
the movie the life of Walter Mitty played by Danny Kaye, it was about a man who daydreamed about being all these people in
his lifetime. However, he found out that he had to get real, get in touch with himself, and be the man God made him to be.
I have come to understand as King Solomon did when he stated in Ecclesiastics that, without God’s will
will being done in our life of His purposes, thoughts
and actions; you end up with vanity and futility. This word vanity
that he is talking about in Hebrew is herbel: meaning, to be led astray and there is no permanency or anything
attached to the eternal purposes of God in it.
King Solomon in Ecclesiastes 3:18
describes our process of growth when he states,, “he had learned that God is separating and sifting
His children to make them realize that by themselves in all their endeavors on the earth, without a relationship with
Him, men are mere mere beasts.
The word beast is behemah: meaning, mute, dumb, or unable to speak the words of God because His
word has not been implanted into our hearts and minds. This miracle on implantation has to be a supernatural awareness by
the Holy Spirit. It is not an accumulative bare knowledge of the facts of the bible. It’s only His life at
work within us that really matters.
When our spiritual ears are not opened
and in tune with the Holy Spirit, we find ourselves in this condition of functioning like a mere beast. Once we recognize
a condition like this, who in their right mind would want to live in it? This heavenly prize that this scripture says we won, we received when we were saved and adopted into God’s
family. God became our Father, Jesus became our Brother and the Holy Spirit gave us the
power and ability to communicate with Him in the Spirit world. This prize to me is an endless
relationship with God and becomes more precious to me daily. Along the way, my whole family did become born again believers.
But I never realized as I do today the investment God puts in us to grow us up to understand His ways and the relentless pursuing
of us to impart His mercy and grace in our lives. The greatest revelation that I have ever come to understand and still becoming
more secure in is,
God never gave up in pursuing me wherever my growing pains took me.
We need to recognize that the
security that we’re so desperately searching for is the holding power of a Father, who we can
count on for the support we need to grow up. I have found that God holds on to us. There is a difference between us trying
to hold on to Him in our own strength verses seeking Him with great passion because of His friendship and experiencing His
holding power. The understanding of God’s ways in us should be always changing. There is a root in us that has to grow
deep in Him, so we can become confident and know what an intimate relationship with Him is all about. As this root grows,
it stabilizes our lives as we learn about a Fathers love that can only be understood through a life of living experiences with Him.
experiences with Him.
In Ecclesiastics 11:9 King Solomon states that, “we
should rejoice in our age of adolescence, and let our heart cheer us in the days of our full grown
youth and walk in the ways of our heart and in the sight of our eyes and know that
for all these things God will bring us into judgment. ” This
verse gives us such a marvelous example of security. Let me put this verse in simple terms so we can define and see what type
of commitment we can have in Him.
This word adolescence in the King James Bible is the word young man.
In the Hebrew its bachuwr meaning, chosen, to try, choose or choice. Webster’s Dictionary defines adolescence
as approaching maturity and being in the age of puberty. We will compare our spiritual growth to our physical growth in our
teenage years. For those of us who have gone through our teen-age years, we should remember all the new emotional and physical
senses we were beginning to feel and for some of us if not all of us, how traumatic it was, to whatever degree. Now I know
that we are supposed to be talking about being a father in our maturity in the Lord. Being and having a fathers vision
is being able to define our growing stages of how God our Father is growing us up and showing us our a track record
of experiences with Him. Only time, patience, and a hunger
for God brings this about. There is no prayer for instant fatherhood
only a total commitment and a hunger after Him.
This scripture tells us that we can enjoy our
adolescent years, as we are becoming mature as our security grows, and as we learn about the gifts and talents, that God has
given us. There is a vision and hope and purpose that becomes alive in us as God shows us the great and wonderful things He
gave to us as our inheritance, the day we made Jesus the Savior of our lives. There are many in the body of Christ that have
made Jesus their Savior but have never made Him Lord over their lives.
Young adolescence years are the time of learning about making our own choices with out being coerced or brought
under control by force or fear. This scripture goes on to say that as
you begin to experience your young independent stage phase, your heart will cheer
you. The word heart in the Hebrew is leb: meaning your, intellect, will
and emotions.
It also means you will have a respect and esteem for yourself and a desire for a higher wisdom
then your own.
Searching for a higher wisdom
is a critical ingredient that we must have if we are to mature in Christ.
Without it, there can be no total maturity. The word cheer is yatab: meaning
many things but primarily you will be sound minded and have an assurance and contentment within of your ability in knowing
God’s plan of how to walk in the Spirit. It then says that we are to walk
in the ways of our heart.
We need to realize that we cannot walk in a condition that we are not
skilled in. It is only by us being willing to participate with The Holy Spirit that, we will come to understand what a privilege
it is to be God’s children. The word walk is halak: meaning being obedient, able to converse
or communicate, and be able to walk or run depending on the need. This word walk is a verb or an action word
of motion and of us being obedient to the calling of God on our life.
It is a calling on what God says is true for our life, not what other people
think we were called to do. This statement is really, what being independent is all about. We will define this more as we
go on.
This
verse also says that, besides walking in the ways of our heart, we need to also walk in the sight of our eyes.
The word sight in the Hebrew is mar’eh: meaning a vision to surely see and to be advised.
The word eye in the Hebrew is ayin: meaning, a fountain or the origin of where everything comes
from. It also represents of how we’re supposed to see and that is with a humble spirit. To put that all together it
reads.
We will be walking in obedience with humility
to God’s call on our life because; we will be able to surely know and are being advised by Him who is the origin of all life.
Scripture tells us that when we
see Jesus when we get to heaven we will know Him. The way we will know Him is because we’re hanging out with Him now
while we are temporarily on the earth. To me this makes it so clear when Jesus said in John 15:5 “I am the
vine and you are the branches. If you live and stay in a tight relationship with me, your life will be as productive as I
always intended it to be. But without you walking in this relationship with Me, you won’t be able to do anything.”
This verse ends up saying that as we are functioning in this mode of
living, only God will be the judge of the steps and progress that we are making. I dislike regressing and correcting some
of the condemning teachings I have heard over the years. I love to talk about the loving good news of the Gospel. But it does not mean that God’s type of judging is Him grilling us to make sure in our
growing pains that, we have dotted all the I’s and crossed all of our T”s. God as I have said many times is not
in the revenge business as a Father. His judgments are His careful eye on His children directing our path as we are growing
up. Remember the Holy Spirit is a comforter and a Gentle teacher. He is a visionary who shows us God’s intentions for
our lives. If you don’t know this God that I am talking about, you have been deceived.
In our main
text 1John 2:13 it states that, children have just for the first time come to recognize that they can have a father and son relationship between each other. I want to remind ourselves that as we
grow up in the Lord, we must come to thoroughly grasp with our spiritual minds how we are
to interact with our Heavenly Father. As a child, we come into the awareness that there is an entity called a father. We said
this is the beginning of all growth, which is the first awareness of God being a Father to us. This spiritual perception that
we must have secures and anchors us in the life of the Spirit. It goes on to say that as we go through stages of our growth
that, we are not only beginning to recognize Him as we did in our child stage but, now we are getting a track record through
experiences that we our having with Him. We are getting a greater understand of a God who has existed from the beginning and
an understanding of all that this verse talks about.
This word recognize
in the King James is known which is ginosko: meaning, having an assurance and able to speak because
you have personal experiences through life that you can talk about with others because, of all the encounters and things God
has done for you.
I can remember just being saved about two months and the men of the church that I attended were going to a
camp that the church owned to cut trees and clean up the grounds because they were going to have a family camp meeting in
a few weeks. Well being a new babe in the Lord, I had no idea yet what I was saved into. It was so new and wonderful that
my ears and eyes were wide open and I was like a detective asking questions and listing to every bodies experiences that they
had in their lives with the Lord.
I was fortunate to be attending a church where they had some wonderful people who had been saved
forty years or more. The camp was a three-hour drive. I was sitting in the front seat and in the back seat were three men
and one was an older man who had been saved some fifty years. Well all the way out, all we talked about was his experiences
that he had in his life with God. I sat there spell bound and in awe. It was giving me an initiation and an eye opener to
what God was going to do for me because he said that God was not a respecter of persons.
When we finally got to the camp and getting out of the car, I asked him one question. I didn’t
realize at the time how prophetic the answer was and how it put a stake of security in my heart. I said, “How did God
do all those things for you” The answer was, “I let Him” What we had here was a
man who had the characteristics of a father in the Lord. You don’t have to have some great calling to become a father.
Just
start out being a hungry child wanting to know about you Heavenly Father.
Let’s talk about the attitudes that will begin to manifest in our
lives as we begin to become adults. Even though I talked about this a bit earlier, let’s anchor some of the statements
that I have made. Now what I will attempt to share are characteristics that go with adult maturity in the Lord. You might
say these are some of the characteristics of a person learning how to be a father Christian. In order to start functioning
in these characteristics you must be in the young man or woman stage of growth and have an intense passion and
total commitment to Christ. Let me remind you that, if we are co-dependent and living
in denial or lying to ourselves, there is no way we can function in the truth.
We said that being in this condition
there could be no deep-rooted stable relationships with God or with each other. That’s why the scripture tells us that
liars can have no part of the kingdom meaning, they cannot participate and function in the inheritance that God gave them
the day they were saved. There is no way to be rooted in any relationship if it is built on lies or anything contrary to the
truth. I am reminding ourselves so we see the consistency and continuity again of these three stages that we have been talking
about. You can’t jump from dysfunctionalism to fatherhood in one step. It’s impossible. We are
to run our race of Christianity as the Holy Spirit prescribes it. Therefore, these characteristics
can only be observed and understood if we are at a place to receive them and are able to comprehend their meaning. Life consistency
and total commitment is the only way.
In
1Corinthians chapter 12, Paul the apostle talks about the body of Christ and the many gifts given to His body for different
uses. There is a whole message on body ministry here alone, but lets continue with the theme of this article.
Paul states,
if you are a born again believer then, you collectively are a member of Christ’s body and each a part individually
and clearly standing apart with his or her own place and function.” What
we see here is that, there needs to be a lot of prayer and brokenness in the family of God that must take place for this verse
to be able to function in the power of the Holy Spirit in our lifetime. Sometimes when I see the great need for maturity in
myself and others, the only thing that lifts the burden in me is pure worship and a thankful to God and abandonment on His
mercy and grace. Unless we allow God to build His house we will forever be building in unproductive uselessness.
Unless we grow to the point of each of us knowing our gifts and God’s
purpose and place that we hold in the family, there will never be inter-dependent relationship type growth
as God intended. God never intended for His kids to be blind followers to the point of putting any teacher or leader in the
place of interpreting the word of God for any of us. Let me give a simple example of this in my own life and I could give
hundreds. God sent a man into my life almost forty years ago when I was in the bar and restaurant business with my father.
During the lunch hour, he came into the restaurant and after he ordered his lunch he asked me straight out if, I had ever
accepted Jesus into my heart. My answer to him was “I am a Catholic.” He said “I don’t care what denomination
you belong to” and he repeated, “Have you ever accepted Jesus into you heart.” My answer was “I only
believe what I hear from the pulpit on Sunday and if it was good enough for my grandfather and my father its good enough for
me.”
His
answer was. “When you get your paycheck at the end of the week do you give it to someone else and trust them to pay
your bills and give you spending money.” I said, “What are you nuts.” Then he said “isn’t it
more important that you guard your soul so that you don’t get robbed of eternity if, what you might be hearing is false
doctrine.” That made a lot of sense and it built in me a foundation to this day that to grow you have to have personal
revelation from God through the Holy Spirit daily.
Unless we have grown into this young stage of having this type of independents,
there is no power to overcome the Devils devices. We end up being the type of followers described in Ephesians
4:14 when it says that, “we should no longer be children tossed like ships to and fro between chance gusts
of teaching and wavering with every changing wind of doctrine, becoming a victim of the cunning and cleverness of unscrupulous
men in a shifty form of trickery in inventing errors to mislead.” You might
have the most loving Pastor or Teacher in the world but it is not their responsibility to interpret scripture for you. We
must get to be people who are praying and growing in our relationship through getting personal discernment from God on our
own.
You
will find, as you become this young adult going into fatherhood the word of God in you will confirm within yourself if what
you are hearing is the Holy Spirit or the words of man.
There is no way we will know our individuality and the importance of how we
fit into the body of Christ if we do not have a overwhelming awareness of our distinct individuality and
difference from our other brothers and sisters in Christ. This takes a commitment and a discipline of seeking God with everything
you have. Once you see this, it’s only then that, you can function as a strong link and have father characteristics
of inter-dependent relationships with each other. This meaning that, you are no longer threatened
and the sibling rivalry and discrimination ends between believers.
You can see here how this strong link between our relationship with God has to filter down
to our human level of interaction between earthly fathers and their children. It’s the people sitting in the pews Sunday
after Sunday that are the ones God has called to go out into the market places of life and minister the power and the love
of Jesus Christ. Unless we allow Jesus to be the sovereign Head of His body, we will have these thousands of doctrines being
preached and man continuing to make God into their image, following denominational teachings. This is a biblical principal
that has to take place in all denominations wherever. There are as many churches as bars on the highways and byways of the
world. Just because we have a cross on the building, it doesn’t mean a thing. It’s what’s going on inside
our hearts that God is concerned about, Not the outward appearance
of things. We were saved between a commitment with
you and Jesus alone. alone. No one else was there. This relationship
has to remain intimate and you’re not to allow other people to
act as an umpire on how your suppose to run your race. In 1Tim.chapter 3-6 Paul the Apostles tells Timothy to know those who
God has called that are ministering as teachers or preachers of the gospel in their
midst. These people who are God called are to be accepted and honored
for their gift as all of us. However, we have to grow to the point where
our discernment is strong in the Holy Spirit to check out and confirm that what we are hearing is the truth
and not false love themes. Remember only Jesus is
the way, the truth and the life.
We
were saved between a commitment with you and Jesus alone. alone.
No one else was there. This relationship has to remain intimate and you’re
not to allow other people to act as an umpire on how your suppose to run your race. In 1Tim.chapter 3-6 Paul the Apostles
tells Timothy to know those who God has called that are ministering as
teachers or preachers of the gospel in their midst. These people who are God called
are to be accepted and honored for their gift as all of us. However,
we have to grow to the point where our discernment is strong in the Holy Spirit to check out and confirm
that what we are hearing is the truth and not false love themes. Remember
only Jesus is the way, the truth and the life.
I hear repeatedly. Phil we have to love
one another. That’s true and the whole message of the word of God. That’s what God is
trying to help us see but, not at the expense or priority of false foundations of doctrines being laid. Only
where there is truth can there be real God love and freedom between Him and each other. Ephesians 4:15 tells us that we are
to speak the truth only in love and then we can grow up and make Jesus the Head of the church. Mutual
admiration societies and denominational clicks will only end by themselves when, we grow up and start becoming fathers. There are no short cuts in growing up.
Most of the things in our lives have to be learned through experiences with
the Holy Spirit and disciplined away then by us trying to pray them away.
Let’s now talk about another
characteristic that we begin to become secure in as we become fathers. In Hebrews chapter 10:12-19 it says “Jesus
offered Himself once as a sacrifice for our sin or our good and now sits in heaven at the right hand of the Father until His
enemies are made a footstool beneath His feet. By this one single act He cleansed and perfected those who are set apart and
made Godly pure. Now the Holy Spirit confirms this to us daily as we are having fellowship with Him.
Now what He is confirming in us is this.
This covenant or agreement that now exists between Jesus and ourselves says that, God’s intentions are
to imprint His laws upon our hearts and He will remind us and give us an awareness with a most intimate
relationship that can take place between two people. He will not bring to our attention those sins that we have committed
any more because, we are forgiven and the penalty that we deserved has been canceled. Now there is no other offering or works
or any thing we can or have to do to clean up our act. Therefore, if we are really aware and grounded in this understanding,
we will know that we are free and have no reservations to enter into the Holy of Holies. This is the atmosphere that God lives
in and we will understand that, the blood that Jesus shed on the cross keeps us pure in His sight and ours and we are always
accepted by Him.”
intimate relationship that
can take place between two people. He will not bring to our attention those sins that we have committed any more because,
we are forgiven and the penalty that we deserved has been canceled. Now there is no other offering or works or any thing we
can or have to do to clean up our act. Therefore, if we are really aware and grounded in this understanding, we will know
that we are free and have no reservations to enter into the Holy of Holies. This is the atmosphere that God lives in and we
will understand that, the blood that Jesus shed on the cross keeps us pure in His sight and ours and we are always
accepted by Him.” Unless we’re living in a relationship with the Holy Spirit and He is confirming to us daily
the understanding of this verse and how God loves and feels about us, these scriptures will have no meaning and effect in
our lives. This covenant that this scripture is talking about is the,
Aroma of the grace of God securing
and anchoring us in an understanding of the eternal and permanent connection between God our Father and His sons
and daughter connection between God our Father and His sons and daughter.
grace of God securing and anchoring us in an understanding of the eternal and permanent
connection between God our Father and His sons and daughter connection between God our
Father and His sons and daughter. It’s this understanding of a persons eternal security in Christ that anchors our soul. It disturbs
me again to regress and talk about one of the most disturbing and damaging doctrines within the Christian community. In many
circles within the Christian community, eternal security is a dirty word. I have heard that those who preach this give people
a license to sin. This is untrue and to hear this is nothing new. It’s been going on since the bible was first written.
In
Romans 5: and 6: Paul the Apostle states that where sin came into the world through Adams disobedience, grace came into the
world through what Jesus did by dying on the cross. He says, “Where sin is at work in our lives or where
we are missing and falling short of receiving our inheritance from God, His grace increases and His unmerited favor and forgiving
nature continues to cleans and encourage us in our endeavor to walk in obedience to His will.” Paul was trying to reach these people and explain this principle so they could grow up to be become fathers.
They interpreted him as saying, ““Well if we receive more grace when we sin, we had better sin more
so we can receive more of God’s grace.” Paul’s answer was, “God
forbid that we do this.” Why did these people say this? Paul was trying to
tell them how secure they were in Christ and they did not understand because, they were still babies in their
understanding of the love of the Lord. There are far too many Christians in this childish mentality within
the Christian community that are still being taught with great vigor and with flat out ignorance and high mindedness that,
God only loves us on conditions.
These are what
the bible talks about as being legalistic or law people. They put stipulation
and conditions on people to measure up in one manner or another. There is much to say about this. What we need to start understanding
is that, as we grow in the Lord we should be constantly be delivered from this law mentality. IF THIS IS NOT BEING ACCOMPLISHED IN OUR LIVES, WE WILL STAY CHILDREN AND NEVER BE ANCHORED IN OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD OUR FATHER.
When we live in this law mentality, it stops
us from experiencing what a loving act in the Holy Spirit is all about. We have this false security in our makeup that says
we need to do more or try to sacrifice ourselves in some way and then we will be more acceptable
to God and others. It causes us to think we are walking in obedience to God’s commands,
but what we are really doing are sacrifices and functioning in the flesh and religious observances. Only
love acts bring healthy relationships. It makes you understand why there are so many walls between family
members and denominations today.
Life is only worth the living when, we allow the Holy Spirit to reveal to us His way of thinking
and the freedom He gives us to explore our relationship with Him our relationship
with Him. What a matchless wonder it is to understand how God made us to forever be
in His presence and as we learn how totally accepted we are by Him.
Now this
brings us to the next characteristic found in Romans 13:8-14 it says, “Owe no man
anything but to love one another. For he that loves another has fulfilled the law. The law and the commandments state
that, you should not commit adultery, not kill, not steal or covet or think evil against anyone and every other commandment.
This is all summed up into one commandment and that is, we should love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Love does no
wrong to ones neighbor and it never hurts anyone. Therefore, it meets and fulfills all the laws. We should be a lot more grown
up then the day we were saved. It’s time to wake up from our sleep and get real. The night is far-gone and it’s
daytime, so stop living in denial and put on God’s armor of light. Stop your quarreling and jealousies. Clothe yourself
in the Lord and put away your fleshly cravings.” For he that loves another has fulfilled
the law. The law and the commandments state that, you should not commit adultery, not kill, not steal or covet or think evil
against anyone and every other commandment. This is all summed up into one commandment and that is, we should love our neighbor
as we love ourselves. Love does no wrong to ones neighbor and it never hurts anyone. Therefore, it meets and fulfills
all the laws. We should be a lot more grown up then the day we were saved. It’s time to wake up from our sleep and get
real. The night is far-gone and it’s daytime, so stop living in denial and put on God’s armor of light. Stop your
quarreling and jealousies. Clothe yourself in the Lord and put away your fleshly cravings.”
We talked about how children
in the Lord live in strife and jealousy. This is a sign of where they are in their maturity. We said a child doesn’t
know how to love because they are takers not givers. Therefore, we see here that as we are growing, our goal here says that
we are to owe no one anything but to love them.
The only way to do this is, first we
have to love ourselves. We have continually talked about how we have to grow into loving ourselves as we
allow the Lord to show us the great love that He has for us. We know that we cannot love ourselves as we
have said if, we are living in denial and not knowing who we are in Christ. How do you get to love someone unless you interact
with them?
Remember we said that we are a person with an identity
and by us interacting with the Holy Spirit; He shows us our self worth and giftings by God. When real love operates between
two people, it becomes a willing self-sacrifice on the part of two people really laying down their lives for each other.
1Cor chapter 13:
tells us the type of love God has for us. It’s as we allow Him to role model this love to us, that enables us to love
ourselves and love each other. This verse reads, “If I speak
in the tongues of men and even angels, but have not love that reasoning, intentional, spiritual devotion such as inspired
by God’s love for me, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers that is, the gift
of interpreting the divine will and purposes and understand all the secret truth and mysteries, and possess all knowledge
and if I can remove mountains, but have not love God’s love operating in me, I am nothing and a useless
nobody. If I give out all that I have to the poor in providing food and doing these works in my own self righteousness in
order that I can get praise from people and do not have a broken and humble heart with God’s love in me. I am nothing.”
This is pretty strong stuff being said here. To have all this ability and showy talent and
gifts but not be loving and not have a real God love for ourselves and other people means that, God is not impressed and calls
us a nobody and useless. Let me point out the grievousness of this condition. In essence what we have here are children with
a large vocabulary of the word of God and puffing them self up with knowledge and having
no fellow feelings with the infirmities of others, including themselves.
In the book of revelations chapter 16 it talks about the great
city of Babylon, if you understand that Babylon is considered as a corrupt spirit against God. The word great
city in the Greek translation is methistano: meaning carried away or seduced. This
reference goes directly to the love chapter in 1Cor 13:2 and as we just noted this verse says that if we do not function
in love we are a nobody. Babylon represents a spirit that was led away
by deception from experiencing the love of the Lord. They were seduced to rise up in their own strength and power and try
to attain some semblance of recognition and might on their own. Let me get right to the point. I hope we are all observing
what’s been going on in the world right now.
The United States under our president with agreement from congress has decided
to invade Iraq to deliver the iraqian people of a tyrant or what I believe to be a Babylonian spirit of a lack of love, and
a spirit of murder that this leader has inflicted on these people that he has ruled. How much more real can God make it for
us, so we can actually see human nature in its most grotesque form being unfolded before our very eyes? This is a hard and
scaring revelation to think that there is a Babylonian spirit that is at work within the born again Christian community of
some of today’s churches.
Jesus in Matthew 10:28 tells us, “not to worry so much about those who can
kill our bodies but those that can kill our body and soul.” When are
we going to get to understand that God is not in any form trying to take out revenge in any form on any of His
children? Only a love without any strings attached would step out of heaven and die on a cross for our rebellion
and spiritually un-renewed self. My reasoning tells me that if a person goes that far, He doesn’t change His mind and
give up on the people He died for. Jesus is never ending in His endeavor to save us from ourselves.
In 1Cor.13:4-8
it describes the God kind of love that He has for us. It says, “Love endures long and is patient
and kind;”” The word endures means, to suffer without
yielding. It also represents pain, grief or injury. Ever had a run in of any sort with family member or friend, maybe even
your mate and no matter how hard you try to communicate, you are constantly dealing with being abused. You keep going back
only to be miss understood and rejected. Therefore, you go to the Lord, present your case, and tell Him about your pain even
in tears and trembling at times. I have had to do this many times; sometimes I think it’s a way of life. Constantly
forgiving, forgiving and forgiving. Not for the other persons sake but for my own sake. Why? To keep my heart pliable before
God so, I don’t allow any bitterness to be put between Him and myself. This process of forgiving is a vital part of
learning how to walk in the love of the Lord and loving ourselves and others. That’s why every time I go to the Lord
for relief from my pain He shows me the cross. I am still learning to understand the scripture that says, “Greater
love has no man than this that, he lay down his life for his friends.”
“Love never
is envious nor boils over with jealousy;” Have you ever had the experience of doing something
that was real hurting and an offense to God. You weren’t aware of it, and were just going your merry way prospering
and finding out much later by God when He got your attention that, you had to go back and apologies. In addition, you came
to recognize that God didn’t jump all over your case when you first offended Him. I believe we will experience these
things so God can show us through example that, even though we offend Him he doesn’t become envious over us not feeling
remorse at first and us just going about our merry way playing in our playpens. In turn, I know we can relate
a little more easily when someone offends us and doesn’t say there sorry but, goes their merry way and it seems like
there prospering in every thing they do. It’s then that we get tempted to give into this spirit of jealousy when you
think, I am here hurting and they’re just having a good old time.
” Have you ever had the experience of doing something that was real hurting and an offense to God. You
weren’t aware of it, and were just going your merry way prospering and finding out much later by God when He got your
attention that, you had to go back and apologies. In addition, you came to recognize that God didn’t jump all over your
case when you first offended Him. I believe we will experience these things so God can show us through example that, even
though we offend Him he doesn’t become envious over us not feeling remorse at first and us just going about our merry
way playing in our playpens. In turn, I know we can relate a little more easily when someone offends us and
doesn’t say there sorry but, goes their merry way and it seems like there prospering in every thing they do. It’s
then that we get tempted to give into this spirit of jealousy when you think, I am here hurting and they’re just having
a good old time. “Love is never boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
It is not conceited with pride, it is not rude or unmannerly, and does not act unbecomingly. God’s love
does not insist on its own rights or is not self seeking.” In plan language love never brags on its accomplishments
and struts like a peacock. It never tries to take credit for the things it has done and it is never arrogant and cruel.
haughtily. It is not
conceited with pride, it is not rude or unmannerly, and does not act unbecomingly. God’s love does not insist
on its own rights or is not self seeking.” In plan language love never brags on its accomplishments and
struts like a peacock. It never tries to take credit for the things it has done and it is never arrogant and cruel.
When we live under an intimidation and a spirit of
ultimatums, it doesn’t give you time to think things out. Ever had a conversation with anybody just sharing yourself
or wanting some feed back and before you get done explaining yourself,
your getting feedback and the one your talking to begins to push their believing system on you. I don’t
believe that the majority of Christians today realize that God is not in the advice
giving business. God wants us to start using our own minds and reasoning power to decide on His
will without timetables and compelling us by force. The answer to our dilemmas is in the problem. It takes time and patience
to wait things through and allow the Holy Spirit to sort out our thinking. The problem is most of us are just too busy and
want a quick fix on every thing in our lives.
James 3:17 tells us that, “wisdom from above is peaceable, loving, considerate
and gentle. It’s willing to yield to reason and is full of compassion, wholehearted and straightforward.” This is what a relationship with the Holy Spirit is all about. It’s a communication of thoughts, words,
attitudes and motives between two people. It’s as real as talking to a healthy person in the physical
senses. The greatest feeling in the world is allowing the Holy Spirit to
inform us through His patient reasoning influence, of some addiction or bondage that the Devil has inflicted on us through
our ignorance. Now unless we start encountering this type of relationship with the Lord we will never be able to assemble
together in His name and minister to each other with tender care and anointed wisdom.
“Love does not become touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it and pays no
attention to a suffered wrong.” Have you ever done anything financially or just put your self out to help somebody
that you believed had a real need, only to find out they squandered the money on drugs and ended up talking about you behind
your back. Have you ever tried to have relationships and share you God given dreams and hopes with someone only to find out
you cast you words of wisdom and the hopes God gave you for your future, and they were treated with complete indifference
with the people you shared them with. These kinds of hurts can cut very deep in the hearts and souls of God’s people.
God’s love doesn’t function like this in any shape or form. Its obvious to me we have all offended God and tested
His resolve to love us by taking no account of what we were guilty of doing to Him. Let me repeat. How are we supposed to
love others who have inflicted these types of wounds on us unless, we have learned through practical experience of God’s
love for us, when we did these things to Him. It’s like the dominos effect.
not become touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it and pays no attention
to a suffered wrong.” Have you ever done anything financially or just put your self out to help somebody that
you believed had a real need, only to find out they squandered the money on drugs and ended up talking about you behind your
back. Have you ever tried to have relationships and share you God given dreams and hopes with someone only to find out you
cast you words of wisdom and the hopes God gave you for your future, and they were treated with complete indifference with
the people you shared them with. These kinds of hurts can cut very deep in the hearts and souls of God’s people. God’s
love doesn’t function like this in any shape or form. Its obvious to me we have all offended God and tested His resolve
to love us by taking no account of what we were guilty of doing to Him. Let me repeat. How are we supposed to love others
who have inflicted these types of wounds on us unless, we have learned through practical experience of God’s love for
us, when we did these things to Him. It’s like the dominos effect. Us growing up in the Lord is a love learning business and nothing more.
“Love
does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.” Let me
just say this about this verse. If you have no every day passion and anger at the injustice that is being perpetrated on the
planet in these days or if you are living uninformed to the condition of man’s hearts and atrocities taking place in
the world and do not have a thankful heart to God and a crying heart and rejoicing for lost souls being saved. If you are
not seeing the healing of people and the many who are being delivered of all their lack and deficiencies that they have lived
in all of their lives, I would suggest that your passion and purposes in life have been sidetracked into
things of less importance and you have wasted your life on frivols pursuits.
Let
me just say this about this verse. If you have no every day passion and anger at the injustice that is being perpetrated on
the planet in these days or if you are living uninformed to the condition of man’s hearts and atrocities taking place
in the world and do not have a thankful heart to God and a crying heart and rejoicing for lost souls being saved. If you are
not seeing the healing of people and the many who are being delivered of all their lack and deficiencies that they have lived
in all of their lives, I would suggest that your passion and purposes in life have been sidetracked into
things of less importance and you have wasted your life on frivols pursuits. “Love bears up under anything and everything that comes and is ever ready to believe the best of every
person. Its hope never ends under all circumstances and it endures everything without weakening. Love never
fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end.” anything
and everything that comes and is ever ready to believe the best of every person. Its hope never ends
under all circumstances and it endures everything without weakening. Love never fades out or becomes obsolete
or comes to an end.”
anything and everything
that comes and is ever ready to believe the best of every person. Its hope never ends under all circumstances
and it endures everything without weakening. Love never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end.”
As I am sitting here writing this that inner voice of the Holy Spirit is telling me that this kind of love
is something to be discovered and sought after with all the grit and gusto one can muster. There is a quality of
life of life in this experience that my mind cannot understand.
If I am going to believe the best of everybody, I am going to have to live without a judgmental attitude.
In turn, I’m going to have to learn how to forgive because, I am going to be hurt in the process and God’s love
doesn’t weaken. Well let’s get real, I get weak at times and have to run to the Lord to get my daily nourishment
of His love to handle my encounters with people who do not walk in perfection. I haven’t run into any perfect people.
However, I’m hoping to run into a lot more hungry people searching after God’s perfect will in their lives. The
last part of this scripture states that, this type of love never comes to an end. The only other thing
that I know that had no beginning or end is God Himself.
1John 4:18
says, “ there is no anxiety or fear of danger in love, but full growing love turns our fears
out of doors and expels every trace of terror. For fear brings with it the thoughts of punishment and he who
lives in this kind of fear has not come to full maturity of love and is not yet totally perfect. We can only love God because
we are learning to allow Him to love us.” It is important to remind ourselves
that God is not looking for perfection, but for us to be constantly pliable in His hands and allow Him to
invade our hearts and mind and be in a perpetual motion in our relationship. I am convinced that as people
learn to daily walk in this type of relationship with Lord, His keeping power of love makes us confident and focused on what
walking in the Spirit is all about. When we stay co-dependent and walk in denial it’s because we are not experiencing
God’s perfect love.
We are all co-dependent children
in some areas of our lives. The problem is when we don’t acknowledge these areas to God; it stops Him from healing us
and making us whole. It’s only as we allow God to love us and our trust in Him increases, that will make us willing
to interact with Him in those areas that are sensitive and maybe raw.
It is God’s intention to have us respond to Him because of His
goodness and grace. If we decide to live by a system of us measuring
up to get His attention and earn His favor or deciding our ways of reasoning are better than His then, He uses the world system
to get our attention and the consequences we reap brings us to the end of ourselves. If we really understand this, who in
their right mind would want to live in a life of strife and confusion like this, and not respond to His goodness and grace.
The problem is I don’t believe many of us understand the process going on, because we are ignorant of understanding
of how it’s supposed to take place.
Oh, we have heard it preached maybe for years however, I don’t believe
we are experiencing it with enough power to want to change our life styles to be delivered from the bondage and strongholds
the Devil has inflicted in our lives. This condition exists because, we have not grown to understand that we are loved by
God as sons and daughters and are still thinking that God has something against us and that we are some kind of slaves at
His commands. This stops us from growing up to be kings and priest in His kingdom and be able to rule and reign along side
with Him.
You have to become a son and daughter interacting with Him, before you can operate as a King and priest.
Romans 13:8
tells us, “we should (owe) no man nothing but to love them.” We
have discussed what love does. Now what does it mean when we owe instead of love. This word owe in the Greek is opheilo: meaning, to be under obligation, feel guilty
or I ought to. You can see here that all these meanings rob us of free will choices of being inter-dependent
with each other and doing things because of the pure pleasure we receive for lifting the burdens of others, just as if some
one was doing it for ourselves. Obligation in any form robs us of the free choice of action on our part.
We must
stop kidding ourselves by living in this false concept of what we think love is all about. Laws of obligation that have been
dictated to us in lack of love settings in our lives have brought God’s people into the same bondage as when the Israelites
were sold into slavery in Egypt in the Old Testament. Where there is no willful giving of quality
value giving of quality value in our
eyes to others, there is no love. Remember God our Father gave us His best love gift in Jesus His Son. By us understanding
this principle of growth, the Holy Spirit will be able to search our heart and show us where we have missed love and are functioning
in obligation, guilt or I ought to do this type of mentality.
The greatest example of love that the world has ever seen is Jesus laying down His life for us to be able
to live in eternity in heaven with Him. What greater act can a person do then to give ones life for another? When any one
loves us like this, there can be no obligations.
Where there is
no obligation, you will give away wealth, time, encouragement, or your own body if it were necessary. The greatest security
man can have is him knowing that God who has the answers and sustenance of life is willing to give us anything He possess
for our total well-being. It’s obvious that God is the wealthiest person in the universe. Now if He is our Heavenly
Father and we are growing to become fathers in our own right. Then He would be channeling His wealth and sustenance to all
His children. In turn, we will have an open heart and hands to meet the needs of others in and out of the family.
In Acts
2: 44-47 it tells us the example of Christian living. It says, “All the people who were saved were in one
accord and united and had everything in common. They sold their possession, as needed both land and property and movable goods
and distributed the price among all who had a need. Moreover, day after day they regularly assembled in the temple and in
their homes going house to house breaking bread or having fellowship including food and the Lords supper with gladness in
simplicity and with a generous heart. They were constantly praising God and being in favor and goodwill with all the
people and the Lord kept adding to their number meaning, more and more were being saved and brought into their fellowship.”
This is very different from
going to church on Sunday morning, evening and Wednesday night teaching classes. I believe somewhere down through the centuries
the church of Jesus Christ has lost the simplicity of the love of God and how to interact it with each other. We must get
back to maturing and explaining what the cost is to grow up in God and get back to our heritage. Only the Holy Spirit led
assembling in worship and teaching will cause us to bow our hearts and bend our knee to the supreme right for Him to have
complete authority over our gatherings. This statement cannot be left in the letter of the law through
rhetoric affirmation. Our flesh has to die and we have to be transformed by the
supernatural work of God in our being. Man in all of his endeavors will never duplicate this miracle through his emotions,
dancing, screaming or antics.